I have always wanted to be a stay at home mum, but thought it was never going to happen. In this day and age you have to work to pay the bills so you can have a roof over your head food, clothes and transportation of some kind as well as life’s little luxuries.
It took me a few years but I am finally one to wake up to the children without complaint, thanks to a morning routine I gave myself. If it wasn’t for that sweet can of Red Bull or coffee I would be a morning wreck and both my girls and partner would be grumpy because of the lack of sleep I generally get each night.
A few weeks ago I was given the chance to be a full time stay at home mum. After years of working casually up to 4 days a week between 4 and 8 hours a day, to be thrown in the position of stay at home mum was rather surprising. Admittedly I do become rather bored during the day, but that changes once I get going.
But what do I actually do during the day other than ensuring my children are fed, clean, happy and well mannered? While maintaining my caffeine consumption, I like to go outside and play. Jumping on the trampoline, kicking the ball, imaginary play in the half built cubby house, baking, drawing, reading, checking my emails and online course and facebooking. During the week and on school days, we go for walks to and from the school and spend on average about 4 hours a week at the park.
My partner is currently working on his business so it’s also up to me to maintain the house and garden as well as cook at least 2 meals for everyone each day. I make it a rule to have the girls in bed no later than 8pm each night, this gives me time to write up essays and read any learning materials for my course. I often wonder if I am losing time with my partner due to my busy day and night. The last time we went out on our own without the children was when our youngest was a few months old, she’s 3 now.
The day to day stresses of being home with my girls all the time can be quite daunting at times. Only one child goes to school, while the other is home 6 days a week. It would be 7 days a week if it weren’t for her nana offering to take her for a few hours one day a week. At 3 years of age, my daughter is showing more personality traits each day. At the moment she hates everything, but that’s only because she learnt the word ‘hate’ from her big sister. She also like to be naked and role play with her toys.
My eldest climbs every pole she sees so she can finally gain the courage to go across the monkey bars. She also has the intense need to want to mother her little sister, which just gets her into trouble. How do you encourage your child to be more like the cool big sister so her little sister knows to come to her when she is in trouble? When I figure this one out, I’ll let you all know.
I often find myself looking at the seek website every few days to see if I have the courage to look for a different job. For now I have resigned myself to being a stay at home mum, a job I rather enjoy.